Is Getting/Giving Oral Sex Cheating?

 

 

I’ve heard this question asked quite a few times and I can’t believe that people are confused about this.   It doesn’t matter how you put it, it is what it is.  People try to play with words and trivialize what it is.  Here’s my take…

Oral sex IS cheating.  First off it’s called oral sex!  Any form of sex with someone other than the person you are with is cheating.  There are no two ways about it.  It doesn’t make a difference if you’re giving it or getting it. 

Second of all, how did you put yourself in this compromising situation?  You had to lie at some point whether it was before or after the deed was done. 

If you are in a committed relationship why would you be giving someone oral sex?  Especially if that’s all it was.  Sheeit if you’re gonna cheat you might as well go all out because this could damn well cost you your relationship!  Better be some good stuff! 

Now I understand that people cheat for many different reasons.  Let me be the first to say that if you are cheating on me because of something i’m doing or NOT doing for that matter…holla at me!  Maybe there’s something I can do to change your perception.  Maybe I can work on the issue.  If I can’t…see ya later!  No need to cheat.  If i’m not making you completely happy then move on.  I have no problem with that. But I do have a problem with being cheated on and I won’t stand for it.

Also, if your man/woman is going out getting what they’re missing at home how mad could you really be?  I mean seriously.  You know dude like head and you ain’t giving him any then what?  He finds that ish somewhere else!  It’s simple.  Don’t believe the bull you hear about it being “ok” if you don’t do it.  That’s a lie.  He will find it somewhere else and so will women.  Whether it be oral sex, or sex period, nobody wants a lousy sex partner.  So if you’re not giving oral sex at all one may call you a cheater and say that they are being cheated out of one of life’s most guilty pleasures!

But for the record ladies and gentlemen, ORAL SEX IS CHEATING! 

What are your thoughts?

Have You Ever Made Love Until You Cried?

 

Have you ever had “Crying Sex?”  If you haven’t you’re missing out.  Before people jump to conclusions, you are NOT crying because you’re in pain.  You are crying because you are in complete bliss.  Your body is tingling and your heart is beating fast.  You’re overwhelmed with pleasure and then your emotions take over and you…CRY!  

Now this isn’t something that happens when you’re having sex with joe blow.  This is usually experienced when you are having sex with someone you truly love and care about.  I know it sounds weird to start crying in the middle of sex but if you are with someone who loves and care about you then he/she will understand  and may even shed a tear themselves.  It’s a beautiful thing.   You know what describes it best?  The scene from Baby Boy!  It’s just like that.  You’re crying and saying I love you and kissing them and…it’s mind blowing.   I’ve had the wonderful pleasure of  experiencing it!  It felt great!  Everyone has to have “Crying Sex” at least once in their lifetime!  You’ll wont be disappointed!   

When is it likely you’ll experience “Crying Sex?”

1.) After you’ve both climaxed and now you’re in for the long haul.  You may experience “Crying Sex” at that point!

2.) This is a big one….AFTER A FIGHT!  Everybody loves loves loves makeup sex!  This is the perfect opportunity for “Crying Sex!”  (BTW, it’s not something you have to force to happen.  It happens on it’s own.)  You have a lot of frustration and penned up emotion.  Your emotions plus the pleasurable sex you are having is the perfect concoction for “Crying Sex!”  You cry, they may cry.  You tell them you love them and it’s all theirs and everything will be alright after that!  Well not really.  But when you experience “Crying Sex” nothing else in the world matters but that moment you’re in right then and there.

Find someone, fall in love and shoot for “Crying Sex” everytime!!!

Oh and enjoy the video, Prince’s “Adore” is sure to get you in the mood if you aren’t already!  Go ‘head.  Get your day started off right!

Tis The Season!

 

With Christmas right around the corner and everyone’s out buying gifts for their loved ones…a question came to mind.

 

If you could screw ANYBODY who would it be and why?

What Is Sexy To You?

We all know that Michael Ealy sexed the hell out of Halle Berry in this movie! He's one sexy brotha and I'm sure men will say the same about Halle!

 

Men and women have different opinions on what makes a person sexy.  It could be something simple like they way you lick your lips or something more complex like making your booty clap!  What I want to know from everybody is what makes someone sexy to you? 

 

Me…i have a whole list!  It could be the way the you look at me, the way you touch me, the way you kiss me, the way u dress, the way you handle your business or the way you talk to me.  It could be the way you show me that everything is ok.  The way you’re always there for me.  The fact that you’re so damn smart and always teaching me knew things.  Hell it may be when you’re teaching me that i find you most sexy!  There are so many things that makes a man sexy to me. What about you?

Do You Like It Fast Or Slow?

 

 

 

So today is “Hump Day” and what better to talk about on “Hump Day” than sex! 

Sex can be had many different ways.  Some like it fast.  Some like it slow.  Some like it rough and others like it a bit more gentle.  What about you?  A lot of people say slow, passionate sex is making love and fast or rough sex is straight f*cking.  I disagree.  I think you’re making love everytime you sex the person you’re in love with.  Makes sense right?  Right.  So what do you think?  How do you like it?  Let’s talk people!  I know JoshDaddy will have a lot to say about this!

Who Say’s Oral Is A Must?

 

It’s simple today people.  I just want to know if you think oral sex is a must!  Most men will agree that giving head is all part of the act.  Whereas oral sex doesn’t matter to some women.  I could elaborate…but why?  Most of us know where we stand on this topic.  We know if we do it, if we need it, why we don’t do it if we don’t and why it’s simply not a necessity for those that don’t really care whether they get it or not.  Oh and mz. soul don’t worry…there’s a place for you here too!  I wanna hear EVERYONE’S opinion. 

 

Disclaimer:  For those of you who enjoy getting it (on a regular basis) but don’t (under any circumstances) give it…we’re going in extra hard on you.  Why?  ‘Cause that shit just doesn’t make any sense.  (I still got love for you…just gotta keep it real *ahem* Atira )

 

Lets’ get into it! 

I’m Not A Freak!

Because I know what I want (sexually) that makes me a freak? 

 

It seems like the type of girl who knows exactly what she wants when it comes to sex gets labeled a freak a lot of times.  I beg to differ.  There is nothing wrong with a woman knowing what she wants and more importantly knowing HOW to get it when it comes to sex.  Don’t call me a freak.  Call me ambitious, determined, goal oriented and hardworking.   I can handle that.  I am comfortable with myself.  I have no hangups when it comes to sex.  I don’t have any of those “timeframe rules” either.  I do what I do when it feels right.  Does any of this make me freak?  Hell no.  Don’t get me wrong…I know how to act.  I play that whole “lady in public, freak in the bedroom” role really well.  You have to.  Ladies, how do you feel about being labeled a freak?  Fellas, how do you feel about a woman who knows what she wants in the bedroom?   Better yet what classifies a person to be a freak?

We Had Sex!…Are We Together Or Not?

 

A lot of people say that sex confuses things.  I’ve heard a lot of men say “It’s just sex!  What’s confusing about it?”  Here’s where I think it gets a little tricky…When you’re really into a person and in your mind you would love to take things further with them, having sex with them CONFUSES THINGS!  I think that for most women sex is a very emotional experience.  If you are not going into the situation with a clear head then obviously after the sex you are not gonna all of a sudden see things any clearer and to be quite honest the dude probably isn’t going to change his mind about how he feels over some bootay.  This goes both ways.  Contrary to what people think, you can’t keep a person with sex alone and if you do what type of relationship to you have?  Really.  Now I know some men and some women that can have sex with a person and then be like “What?  It was just sex!”  I’ve never been one of those people. 

There are two types of situations.  You have the people who understand that it’s nothing.  We ended up having sex or we agreed to have sex and that’s the extent of it.  But what about the people who are obviously feeling one another but haven’t made it clear whether or not they’re together?  Does sex just confuse things for them?  Is a title necessary before the sex?  IDK.  I just have a lot of questions.  What I really want is your answer to this question:

Does having sex with someone you’re obviously interested in before you make it official lessen your chances of becoming that person’s man/woman?

Let’s talk about it!  Don’t be afraid.  I won’t bite…although I am passionate about this!

How Far Will You Go To Please Your Man/Woman?

Are you willing to do anything and everything to please your man/woman?

 

Do virgins still exist?  I’m sure they do but they are few and far in between.  As women we don’t wanna hear things like “I’m not eating the coochie.”  He would never hear the end of it.  The same thing goes for women that say “I’m not slobbing the knob.”  If your man tells you that he wants it day and night would that be cool?  Ok that was an easy one.  What if he comes to you and tells you that he wants to invite someone else to the bedroom?  Hmmm….now you’re thinking.  I mean what if he said you had to blow him off everyday?  Hell, what if she said she needed her toes sucked every now and then?  When does it all become just too much or does it ever?  There are a thousand senarios I can come up with and yet there are only a few reactions.  Either you are gonna stay, leave or compromise.  What’s it gonna be?  Let’s talk!

Age Ain’t Nothin’ But A Number

 

So we’ve all heard the saying “With age comes wisdom,” right?  Well that’s not true for everyone and not true in all instances.  Some things require practice.  It doesn’t matter how many years you’ve walked the earth, how much you’ve accomplished in life, how much money or power you have.  In certain areas practice makes perfect. 

Sex is one of those instances. How in the hell could you be better in bed than a younger guy/girl if you’ve never had sex?  It’s not logical.  I’ll put it to you this way:

You’re 45 yrs old and just learned how to ride a bike 2 months ago.  I’m 27 yrs old and I’ve been riding bikes for 15 yrs.   You’re supposed to be better at riding bikes than me because you’re older than me?  That’s just nonsense.   

When it comes to the physical and situations where you have to be physically active wisdom has nothing to do with the performance.  Sex is something that’s perfected with practice.  I mean you could meet a dude and his performance is lacking terribly.  That doesn’t mean he’ll always be that way or that you have to give him another 10 years before he’s perfected his craft.  That just means that he needs a little lesson…then when you’re done giving him the lesson hell let him practice a lil’ on you…lol.  More sex! 

So hell naw older men don’t win by default.  All men (and women for that matter) have to work at perfecting their craft.  Some men are bad because some women don’t have the balls to tell them that their sex game is wack!

I think this whole concept that older men are better because of their age is ridiculous.  Age doesn’t matter.  I personally prefer men around my age.  I could never get with the “older men” thing.  Just really not my twist.  My experience with guys my age was great!  I’ve never had any major problems.  Then again i’m not scared to ask for what I want.

Let me say this for my homeboi ANTHONY:  Even though I mentioned men a lot in this post it really goes both ways.  This situation applies to men and women.

So what do you think?  Does age really matter?  What’s your experience?