Have You Ever Made Love Until You Cried?

 

Have you ever had “Crying Sex?”  If you haven’t you’re missing out.  Before people jump to conclusions, you are NOT crying because you’re in pain.  You are crying because you are in complete bliss.  Your body is tingling and your heart is beating fast.  You’re overwhelmed with pleasure and then your emotions take over and you…CRY!  

Now this isn’t something that happens when you’re having sex with joe blow.  This is usually experienced when you are having sex with someone you truly love and care about.  I know it sounds weird to start crying in the middle of sex but if you are with someone who loves and care about you then he/she will understand  and may even shed a tear themselves.  It’s a beautiful thing.   You know what describes it best?  The scene from Baby Boy!  It’s just like that.  You’re crying and saying I love you and kissing them and…it’s mind blowing.   I’ve had the wonderful pleasure of  experiencing it!  It felt great!  Everyone has to have “Crying Sex” at least once in their lifetime!  You’ll wont be disappointed!   

When is it likely you’ll experience “Crying Sex?”

1.) After you’ve both climaxed and now you’re in for the long haul.  You may experience “Crying Sex” at that point!

2.) This is a big one….AFTER A FIGHT!  Everybody loves loves loves makeup sex!  This is the perfect opportunity for “Crying Sex!”  (BTW, it’s not something you have to force to happen.  It happens on it’s own.)  You have a lot of frustration and penned up emotion.  Your emotions plus the pleasurable sex you are having is the perfect concoction for “Crying Sex!”  You cry, they may cry.  You tell them you love them and it’s all theirs and everything will be alright after that!  Well not really.  But when you experience “Crying Sex” nothing else in the world matters but that moment you’re in right then and there.

Find someone, fall in love and shoot for “Crying Sex” everytime!!!

Oh and enjoy the video, Prince’s “Adore” is sure to get you in the mood if you aren’t already!  Go ‘head.  Get your day started off right!

Love Lesson #1: Stop Looking For Perfection

 

Nobody’s perfect.  We hear that over and over again.  That’s because it’s true.  None of us are pefect by a long shot yet and still we are searching for the perfect man or the perfect woman. 

Some of us are alone because we look too deep into everything a person says and does.  While i’m not saying settle for less than what you want I am saying that what we want is perfection and that doesn’t exist.

So what I don’t wear my hair a certain way and so what if I stumble over my words a couple of times.  That doesn’t mean that i’m not a good woman.  Better yet it doesn’t mean that i’m incapable of loving you the way you need to be loved and making your life worth while. 

I’ve learned over the years that no one person is going to be exactly what your looking for or exactly what you want but they can be exactly what you need. 

So take the blinders off and look at the important people in your life with a new frame of mind!

Once A Cheater Always A Cheater?

 

I know there are a lot of people out there who have cheated on their signicant others or have been cheated on or both.  I’ve definitely been cheated on before.  Fortunately i can honestly say that i’ve never cheated on a boyfriend.  Even though i’ve had my heart broken into a million pieces before I believe anyone can change.  But the person has to want to change.  A lot of times we try to change people into what we need them to be and that’s just not realistic.  While i don’t think cheating is the answer i do think people change. 

Men/Women cheat for different reasons.  You can’t judge a book by it’s cover.  Unless you know the circumstances surrounding a particular situation you can’t cast judgement.  You have no clue what was going on.  I’ve seen people turn around.  I’ve heard some stories and thought to myself “I would’ve left.”  I don’t condone cheating at all.  Personally I would rather remove myself from the situation than to cheat. 

Something’s not working.  Something’s not going right.  There has to be a reason you are cheating.  Maybe you’re just not happy.  Maybe you’re not being satisfied.  Maybe you’re not attracted to the person you’re with anymore…and the biggest reason of them all…Maybe you’re just not ready to settle down. 

 

Cheating is never the answer.  I know some people will beg to differ but let’s be honest here.  If you feel the need to be with someone else emotionally or physically then 1) i should be made aware of this and 2) we need to see if this can be worked out between us or 3) maybe you’re right and we both need to move on. No situation is permanent.  Even married couples can divorce.  Please talk to your S.O. when you feel the urge or need to cheat. 

A few issues can be addressed.  Am I not giving you all that you need?  Am I know loving you right?  What?  Whatever the reason, i don’t think we remain cheaters forever because we cheated before.  At least it’s what I like think.  What do you think?

How To Love A Woman Series

So I finally started writing the series called “How To Love A Man” and it kicked off yesterday at Mandom Mag.  Ladies there’s some good stuff there and this is just the beginning.  Please be sure to stop by Mandom Mag an Online Urban Lifestyle Magazine and check your girl out!

 

Now on to today’s topic!  The secret to loving a woman.  I’m gonna be posting a new secret every week.  Here’s secret number 1:

 

You have to make us feel important.  It’s sort of like stroking the male ego.  We NEED to feel like we matter to you.  More than that we need to feel like we come first.  Whether it’s true or not…we need to feel special.  As corny as it sounds it really works for us.  Consider our feelings when it comes to making desicisions that will affect us.  A good woman definitely considers her man’s feelings when making those same type of decisions.  Men understand that we’re not asking you to behave as women but we like things like flowers sent to us.  It’s good to show with flowers but to have them sent means you had to go through some extra trouble and it shows that you really tried hard.  Whatever you need to do to make us feel special…do it.  If that means giving up Monday night football one night to have a romantic dinner with your woman than so be it.  It’s one day.  We take note of things like that.  Little things count too.  I told someone before that the little things matter most to me because it doesn’t take much thought or effort to do the big things.  It’s nothing to go out and buy her an expensive gift.  But to email her an mp3 of a certain song she likes by an artist she loves, or to send her an mp3 of a song that has some significance to the both of you takes a little more thought.  At least I like to think so. 

 

Sidebar:  This is just a generalization.  More detailed information to come.  I’m feeling a little under the weather and therefore my brain isn’t functioning properly.  I have to cut this one short because I feel like i’m rambling. 

ALSO I NEED YOU GUYS TO HEAD OVER TO MANDOM MAG AND READ THE “CONTROVERSIAL”  (to put it nicely some women aren’t feeling it) ARTICLE I WROTE ENTITLED “HOW TO LOVE A MAN.”  LEAVE A COMMENT WHEN YOU GET A CHANCE.  I WANT TO KNOW HOW EVERYONE FEELS ABOUT THE ARTICLE AND IF I SHOULD CONTINUE WITH IT AS A SERIES.

Baby Daddy Privilege…what?

 

Hey guys!  I hope everyone enjoyed their holiday!  It’s back to business here at Yum Yum Kisses!

I know today is Freaky Friday but I wanna talk about something else…not so freaky.

Baby Daddy Privilige

What the hell is that?

So i’m having a conversation with a few of my male co-workers and I’m blown away by the term “Baby Daddy Privilege.”  I can’t believe some men actually believe this to be true.   We are speaking of situations where the mother and father of the child are no longer together but they’re still sexing each other…because it’s the “baby daddy’s” privilege.  Crazy right?  Right.

There are no “baby daddy privileges” over here!  I’ll admit that it’s so damn easy to slip back into that comfortable position right after the two of you break up but at some point enough is enough.  Obviously it was over for a reason and you can’t lose sight of that. 

What makes these men think they have any say so when it comes to MY cookie?  I mean it get’s deeper.  He’s with someone.  You’re with someone.  But he still thinks it belongs to him.  Sad mistake.  It’s over.  It’s been a wild and crazy ride but it’s time to move on.  Let go.  We share a child together and that’s it.  We have a crazy history full of all the reasons why we SHOULDN’T be together.  That’s it.  I don’t want you. 

The flesh is weak and sometimes you fall victim but here’s why you have to stand firm…

You have to love yourself enough to know that you’re being used.  You have to love yourself enough to know that you’re being played.  You have to understand that it’s not YOU he wants, it’s the p*ssy.  Don’t be used to stroke his d*ck when he’s mad at his chick.  Don’t be his “BUST IT BABY!” One would hope that after you’ve experienced this a couple of times you’d smarten up and put a stop to this madness.  Guess not.  Women are dealing with this issue everyday.  It’s really sad.  What’s even sadder is the fact that men think it belongs to them even after you’re no longer together.  There has to be a reason you’re not giving it up to them other than the fact that you don’t want to.   “You seeing somebody?”  “You on ya period?”  Nah, nucca i’m just not giving you my debbie cakes!!

I know i’m rambling but this sh!t really took me by surprise!  “Baby daddy privilege” my ass!  Like my homegirl Atira said…“You betta grab a damn clue!”

‘Cause ain’t nothin’ poppin off over here!  Personally, I’m too wrapped up in what’s making me happy right now…and that damn sure ain’t my baby daddy! 

Have you ever heard of some shit like this before?  Feel free to share you’re thoughts on this topic.

Put Them To The Test!

 

We’ve all been told “No Sex Before Marriage” a time or two.  How many of us acutally listened?  None!  We’ve all heard the saying “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free” right?  I don’t know about any of you but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with knowing what you’re getting yourself into before hand.  Just imagine that you wait a year or two before living together and having sex and then you find out it’s not all it was cracked up to be…after the marriage.  I’m not saying that your marriage is based on these things but if it’s not working in those two departments then you have serious problems.  I have to test things out and I’m sure most guys will agree.  What do you think?  It’s Friday people!  Let’s get into it!  Air it all out!

We Had Sex!…Are We Together Or Not?

 

A lot of people say that sex confuses things.  I’ve heard a lot of men say “It’s just sex!  What’s confusing about it?”  Here’s where I think it gets a little tricky…When you’re really into a person and in your mind you would love to take things further with them, having sex with them CONFUSES THINGS!  I think that for most women sex is a very emotional experience.  If you are not going into the situation with a clear head then obviously after the sex you are not gonna all of a sudden see things any clearer and to be quite honest the dude probably isn’t going to change his mind about how he feels over some bootay.  This goes both ways.  Contrary to what people think, you can’t keep a person with sex alone and if you do what type of relationship to you have?  Really.  Now I know some men and some women that can have sex with a person and then be like “What?  It was just sex!”  I’ve never been one of those people. 

There are two types of situations.  You have the people who understand that it’s nothing.  We ended up having sex or we agreed to have sex and that’s the extent of it.  But what about the people who are obviously feeling one another but haven’t made it clear whether or not they’re together?  Does sex just confuse things for them?  Is a title necessary before the sex?  IDK.  I just have a lot of questions.  What I really want is your answer to this question:

Does having sex with someone you’re obviously interested in before you make it official lessen your chances of becoming that person’s man/woman?

Let’s talk about it!  Don’t be afraid.  I won’t bite…although I am passionate about this!

How Far Will You Go To Please Your Man/Woman?

Are you willing to do anything and everything to please your man/woman?

 

Do virgins still exist?  I’m sure they do but they are few and far in between.  As women we don’t wanna hear things like “I’m not eating the coochie.”  He would never hear the end of it.  The same thing goes for women that say “I’m not slobbing the knob.”  If your man tells you that he wants it day and night would that be cool?  Ok that was an easy one.  What if he comes to you and tells you that he wants to invite someone else to the bedroom?  Hmmm….now you’re thinking.  I mean what if he said you had to blow him off everyday?  Hell, what if she said she needed her toes sucked every now and then?  When does it all become just too much or does it ever?  There are a thousand senarios I can come up with and yet there are only a few reactions.  Either you are gonna stay, leave or compromise.  What’s it gonna be?  Let’s talk!

Age Ain’t Nothin’ But A Number

 

So we’ve all heard the saying “With age comes wisdom,” right?  Well that’s not true for everyone and not true in all instances.  Some things require practice.  It doesn’t matter how many years you’ve walked the earth, how much you’ve accomplished in life, how much money or power you have.  In certain areas practice makes perfect. 

Sex is one of those instances. How in the hell could you be better in bed than a younger guy/girl if you’ve never had sex?  It’s not logical.  I’ll put it to you this way:

You’re 45 yrs old and just learned how to ride a bike 2 months ago.  I’m 27 yrs old and I’ve been riding bikes for 15 yrs.   You’re supposed to be better at riding bikes than me because you’re older than me?  That’s just nonsense.   

When it comes to the physical and situations where you have to be physically active wisdom has nothing to do with the performance.  Sex is something that’s perfected with practice.  I mean you could meet a dude and his performance is lacking terribly.  That doesn’t mean he’ll always be that way or that you have to give him another 10 years before he’s perfected his craft.  That just means that he needs a little lesson…then when you’re done giving him the lesson hell let him practice a lil’ on you…lol.  More sex! 

So hell naw older men don’t win by default.  All men (and women for that matter) have to work at perfecting their craft.  Some men are bad because some women don’t have the balls to tell them that their sex game is wack!

I think this whole concept that older men are better because of their age is ridiculous.  Age doesn’t matter.  I personally prefer men around my age.  I could never get with the “older men” thing.  Just really not my twist.  My experience with guys my age was great!  I’ve never had any major problems.  Then again i’m not scared to ask for what I want.

Let me say this for my homeboi ANTHONY:  Even though I mentioned men a lot in this post it really goes both ways.  This situation applies to men and women.

So what do you think?  Does age really matter?  What’s your experience? 

 

Don’t Take Away My Choice

“Jody, I know you love me.  I also know you fuck other girls.  I don’t like it, but I know you.  So just be real with me.  Will you be honest?”

 
“If you can take it. You’re starting to get on my nerves with this.”

                  
“I’m getting on your nerves?  And you’re the one fucking around.  You get with any of them girls
you sell dresses to?”

                  
“A few.  Feel better now? I love you, girl.  You got my son and you’ll probably be my wife.  You want me to be honest?”

“Yeah, I do.”

                  
“You’re my woman.  Them other hos is tricks.  I make love to you, I want to be with you, but I fuck other females occasionally.  I don’t know why, I just do.  That’s the situation.  You feel better now?  That’s some honesty for you. Deal with it.  I love you enough to be honest.”

                 
“If you loved me, you wouldn’t lie to me all the time.” ~~~ Baby Boy

 

I can’t stand a liar.  That’s some bullshit right there.  You lie to me because you love me.  No nucca, tell me the truth because you love me and care about my feelings.  If we are in a committed relationship there really is no reason to lie.  You shouldn’t be doing anything that you have to lie about.  Lying is a vicious cycle and once you start you can’t stop.  You have to keep covering your lie with another lie.  Eventually you’ll slip up or get tired of the cycle.  I believe that everything in the dark comes to light so what’s the point of lying?  Anyway, how do you guys feel about this?  Men do you really lie to women because you love them?  How about not doing things you have to lie about.  When you lie to me you take away my right to make a choice in the situation.