Is Getting/Giving Oral Sex Cheating?

 

 

I’ve heard this question asked quite a few times and I can’t believe that people are confused about this.   It doesn’t matter how you put it, it is what it is.  People try to play with words and trivialize what it is.  Here’s my take…

Oral sex IS cheating.  First off it’s called oral sex!  Any form of sex with someone other than the person you are with is cheating.  There are no two ways about it.  It doesn’t make a difference if you’re giving it or getting it. 

Second of all, how did you put yourself in this compromising situation?  You had to lie at some point whether it was before or after the deed was done. 

If you are in a committed relationship why would you be giving someone oral sex?  Especially if that’s all it was.  Sheeit if you’re gonna cheat you might as well go all out because this could damn well cost you your relationship!  Better be some good stuff! 

Now I understand that people cheat for many different reasons.  Let me be the first to say that if you are cheating on me because of something i’m doing or NOT doing for that matter…holla at me!  Maybe there’s something I can do to change your perception.  Maybe I can work on the issue.  If I can’t…see ya later!  No need to cheat.  If i’m not making you completely happy then move on.  I have no problem with that. But I do have a problem with being cheated on and I won’t stand for it.

Also, if your man/woman is going out getting what they’re missing at home how mad could you really be?  I mean seriously.  You know dude like head and you ain’t giving him any then what?  He finds that ish somewhere else!  It’s simple.  Don’t believe the bull you hear about it being “ok” if you don’t do it.  That’s a lie.  He will find it somewhere else and so will women.  Whether it be oral sex, or sex period, nobody wants a lousy sex partner.  So if you’re not giving oral sex at all one may call you a cheater and say that they are being cheated out of one of life’s most guilty pleasures!

But for the record ladies and gentlemen, ORAL SEX IS CHEATING! 

What are your thoughts?

Once A Cheater Always A Cheater?

 

I know there are a lot of people out there who have cheated on their signicant others or have been cheated on or both.  I’ve definitely been cheated on before.  Fortunately i can honestly say that i’ve never cheated on a boyfriend.  Even though i’ve had my heart broken into a million pieces before I believe anyone can change.  But the person has to want to change.  A lot of times we try to change people into what we need them to be and that’s just not realistic.  While i don’t think cheating is the answer i do think people change. 

Men/Women cheat for different reasons.  You can’t judge a book by it’s cover.  Unless you know the circumstances surrounding a particular situation you can’t cast judgement.  You have no clue what was going on.  I’ve seen people turn around.  I’ve heard some stories and thought to myself “I would’ve left.”  I don’t condone cheating at all.  Personally I would rather remove myself from the situation than to cheat. 

Something’s not working.  Something’s not going right.  There has to be a reason you are cheating.  Maybe you’re just not happy.  Maybe you’re not being satisfied.  Maybe you’re not attracted to the person you’re with anymore…and the biggest reason of them all…Maybe you’re just not ready to settle down. 

 

Cheating is never the answer.  I know some people will beg to differ but let’s be honest here.  If you feel the need to be with someone else emotionally or physically then 1) i should be made aware of this and 2) we need to see if this can be worked out between us or 3) maybe you’re right and we both need to move on. No situation is permanent.  Even married couples can divorce.  Please talk to your S.O. when you feel the urge or need to cheat. 

A few issues can be addressed.  Am I not giving you all that you need?  Am I know loving you right?  What?  Whatever the reason, i don’t think we remain cheaters forever because we cheated before.  At least it’s what I like think.  What do you think?