Baby Daddy Privilege…what?

 

Hey guys!  I hope everyone enjoyed their holiday!  It’s back to business here at Yum Yum Kisses!

I know today is Freaky Friday but I wanna talk about something else…not so freaky.

Baby Daddy Privilige

What the hell is that?

So i’m having a conversation with a few of my male co-workers and I’m blown away by the term “Baby Daddy Privilege.”  I can’t believe some men actually believe this to be true.   We are speaking of situations where the mother and father of the child are no longer together but they’re still sexing each other…because it’s the “baby daddy’s” privilege.  Crazy right?  Right.

There are no “baby daddy privileges” over here!  I’ll admit that it’s so damn easy to slip back into that comfortable position right after the two of you break up but at some point enough is enough.  Obviously it was over for a reason and you can’t lose sight of that. 

What makes these men think they have any say so when it comes to MY cookie?  I mean it get’s deeper.  He’s with someone.  You’re with someone.  But he still thinks it belongs to him.  Sad mistake.  It’s over.  It’s been a wild and crazy ride but it’s time to move on.  Let go.  We share a child together and that’s it.  We have a crazy history full of all the reasons why we SHOULDN’T be together.  That’s it.  I don’t want you. 

The flesh is weak and sometimes you fall victim but here’s why you have to stand firm…

You have to love yourself enough to know that you’re being used.  You have to love yourself enough to know that you’re being played.  You have to understand that it’s not YOU he wants, it’s the p*ssy.  Don’t be used to stroke his d*ck when he’s mad at his chick.  Don’t be his “BUST IT BABY!” One would hope that after you’ve experienced this a couple of times you’d smarten up and put a stop to this madness.  Guess not.  Women are dealing with this issue everyday.  It’s really sad.  What’s even sadder is the fact that men think it belongs to them even after you’re no longer together.  There has to be a reason you’re not giving it up to them other than the fact that you don’t want to.   “You seeing somebody?”  “You on ya period?”  Nah, nucca i’m just not giving you my debbie cakes!!

I know i’m rambling but this sh!t really took me by surprise!  “Baby daddy privilege” my ass!  Like my homegirl Atira said…“You betta grab a damn clue!”

‘Cause ain’t nothin’ poppin off over here!  Personally, I’m too wrapped up in what’s making me happy right now…and that damn sure ain’t my baby daddy! 

Have you ever heard of some shit like this before?  Feel free to share you’re thoughts on this topic.

Do You Like It Fast Or Slow?

 

 

 

So today is “Hump Day” and what better to talk about on “Hump Day” than sex! 

Sex can be had many different ways.  Some like it fast.  Some like it slow.  Some like it rough and others like it a bit more gentle.  What about you?  A lot of people say slow, passionate sex is making love and fast or rough sex is straight f*cking.  I disagree.  I think you’re making love everytime you sex the person you’re in love with.  Makes sense right?  Right.  So what do you think?  How do you like it?  Let’s talk people!  I know JoshDaddy will have a lot to say about this!

Is Chivalry Dead?

 

I’m a big fan of the “Man and Wife” show.  For the most part I think they keep it real.  While watching Youtube videos I came across this one they did a few months back.  So…do you think chivalry is dead?  I think it still exists.  It’s few and far in between but some guys still open car doors and pull out your chair before you eat.  I wanna know what you think.  Women…is it dead?  Men…why or why not?  Let’s get into this!

Quote of the Day/Self Reflection

I’d like to run away
From you,
But if you didn’t come
And find me …
I would die.
~ by Shirley Bassey ~

 

Damn!  Have you ever felt like this?  I have.  I don’t know what to call it but whatever it is…it’s a scary thing.  Sometimes I feel like I just want to run away from everything but the thought of this special someone not coming to find me keeps me right where I am.  Sometimes you question why you’re there,  why you continue to try and then it hits you that if you didn’t have this person in your life things would be so different.  To the person in my life…

 

I get frustrated sometimes…i’m only human.  But I couldn’t imagine not knowing you or having you around to talk to.  You have been a breath of fresh air.  You’ve opened my eyes to a lot of things and i’ve learned a lot from you.  Still sometimes I want to runaway due to fear, frustration, and the unknown.  Not knowing where this is going.  Not knowing if it will last.  Not knowing if it’s even meant for us to be together.  Oh but the thought…of you NOT coming to find me is a risk i’m not willing to take.  Besides I grab life by the horns and go for what I want!  One thing’s for sure…I’ve found a friend for life.

Put Them To The Test!

 

We’ve all been told “No Sex Before Marriage” a time or two.  How many of us acutally listened?  None!  We’ve all heard the saying “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free” right?  I don’t know about any of you but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with knowing what you’re getting yourself into before hand.  Just imagine that you wait a year or two before living together and having sex and then you find out it’s not all it was cracked up to be…after the marriage.  I’m not saying that your marriage is based on these things but if it’s not working in those two departments then you have serious problems.  I have to test things out and I’m sure most guys will agree.  What do you think?  It’s Friday people!  Let’s get into it!  Air it all out!

What Keeps Us Holding On?

 

When you’ve been in a relationship for a significant amount of time we seem to find it hard to leave.  Why?  Because love is a powerful drug!  The sad thing is that in most cases the love is lacking or not there at all.  So what is it that keeps us there?  I think what kept me in my last relationship was the fact that I had been with him so long.  We lived together for so many years it really was almost impossible to see me being without him…and that right there was the problem.  He was my life.  I knew and understood that whatever decisions I made directly affected him and with that in mind I made decisions that would benefit us both.  Nothing wrong with that…except the fact that he didn’t give a damn about me when it was time for him to make decisions.  There were a lot of reasons I stayed.  I stayed because even though times were hard I loved him enough to work through it with him.  I thought I could make him a better person.  I thought that me pushing him to do what he needed to do was the least I could for him.  But I was wrong.  I was only enabling him.  I wasn’t helping.  He never changed.  To this day his is still struggling, moving from place to place and constantly on the job search.  People change when they want to.  You can’t change people.  I learned that the hard way and after 8 years and a baby I finally get it.  Damn!  You stay because you want things to work.  You stay because you’ve invested so much time and energy.  You stay because you think it’ll get better.  You stay because you love them.  What are your thoughts on this?

Big Girls Need Love Too!

Diddy is not playing with this “Big Gurl!”  Do your thang Diddy!!

 

This has been on my mind for a while now and so i’ve decided to bring it to you all.  Lately I’ve noticed an increase of “love and affection” for the “Big Gurls.”  Some of us like to be called thick, and some pleasantly plump.  There are a ton of other names out there i’m sure but we’ll talk about them some other time.  I’ve never felt insecure about who I am.  I’ve never had any self esteem issues.  I’ve always loved the person I am…both inside and out.  I think that makes a lot of difference when it comes to how the rest of the world sees you.  I was in a really long relationship and didn’t give much mind to how the rest of the world were feeling about dating and yes…sexing…a “Big Gurl.”  Oh but now I see the light!  I’ve heard a lot of different reasons why people love being with “Big Gurls.”  Some say the va jay jay is always moist.  Others say it’s simply because it feels good. 

 

This is not in any way an attempt to “down” the skinny or average sized women…i’m just saying “Big Gurls” need love too and apparently they’re getting it!  If you’re one of those men attracted to “Pleasantly Plump” women or women on the thicker side I wanna know why?  Have you ever sexed a “Big Gurl?”  Would you ever? and What attracts you to them?  If you’re not attracted at all feel free to voice your opinions as well.  I just wanna know.

What’s Happening With Yum Yum Kisses?

I have big plans for Yum Yum Kisses!  The site design will change in the near furture.   I still haven’t decided what direction I want to go in with the design but I will be using the same site designer I used for Love Lies and Music.  I’m excited about that!  Also I plan on covering many different topics when it comes to Love, Sex, and Relationships.  I’m looking to do a lot!  I’m also playing around with the idea of doing an online radio show!  That would be too fun!  Later on down the line I hope to host YYK Events for the grown and sexy and then it will be on and poppin!  So thanks everyone for your support and tell me what you think about the upcoming changes for Yum Yum Kisses!

 

What would you like to talk about on Yum Yum Kisses?  I know I asked this question before but I forget.  Maybe there are things you didn’t mention before that you would like to mention now.

 

MUAH!!!

Quotes of the Day

Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt, but it’s the only way to live life completely.

                                                               ~ Anonymous

Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

                                                               ~ Anonymous

I had to put up both these quotes today.  I hope you don’t mind. 

 

Who Say’s Oral Is A Must?

 

It’s simple today people.  I just want to know if you think oral sex is a must!  Most men will agree that giving head is all part of the act.  Whereas oral sex doesn’t matter to some women.  I could elaborate…but why?  Most of us know where we stand on this topic.  We know if we do it, if we need it, why we don’t do it if we don’t and why it’s simply not a necessity for those that don’t really care whether they get it or not.  Oh and mz. soul don’t worry…there’s a place for you here too!  I wanna hear EVERYONE’S opinion. 

 

Disclaimer:  For those of you who enjoy getting it (on a regular basis) but don’t (under any circumstances) give it…we’re going in extra hard on you.  Why?  ‘Cause that shit just doesn’t make any sense.  (I still got love for you…just gotta keep it real *ahem* Atira )

 

Lets’ get into it!